When Hana tells Soo-Ja she should have done something about her unhappiness, Soo-Ja realizes, "She had never lived for herself, and in that, she found her greatest mistake and her greatest glory. Her selflessness had not been entirely chosen, but rather forced out of her, by her family" (p. 332), and then tells Hana that it is indeed her own fault. What could Soo-Ja have done differently?